Introduction

Marriage is one of the most beautiful and sacred relationships that an individual can experience. However, due to various reasons, some marriages tend to go through a rough patch and the couple may start to drift apart. If you are one such couple, then it is important to take the right steps to fix the marriage and save it from falling apart. In this article, we provide some important tips for fixing your marriage and getting back in the groove. These tips include making a sober self-evaluation, humbling yourself to God, letting your partner know that you are committed to saving your marriage, agreeing to set aside your problems, being the change you want to see, and starting connecting and talking and touching each other. By following these tips, couples can work together to improve their relationship and save their marriage.

Tip No. 1: Make a Sober Self-Evaluation First

It is common for spouses to throw stones at their partners in all cases where the relationship did not work well. You just ask yourself how many times you attached your marriage problem to your faults. How many times did you apologize to your partner? How many times did you say to yourself that you are going to change your behavior for the sake of protecting and or saving your marriage? You have the answers to these critical questions.

Tip No. 2: Humble Yourself to God

 My independent advice is to make a sober evaluation of yourself before you accuse your partner. You can get the concept of creating a self-evaluation in the word of God from Luke 6:4 – 42, which says that “first remove the beam out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to cast out the mote out of your brother’s eye.”

Implementing tip number one above is not as simple as cutting an apple; it needs God’s Grace to do it with a sober mind. Remember the word of God in the Philippines 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Tip No. 3: Let Your Partner Know that your Commitment to Saving Your Marriage

Find a moment and setting to express to your spouse your dedication to salvage your marriage. Make sure your partner understands how much love and absolution mean to you. Getting on the same page about the incredible power of prayer in transforming your life is also necessary. Recall to each other that marriage comes from God. It is God’s command for man and woman to leave their parents and join together as husband and wife, forming one body in Genesis 1:26-27 and 2:18-24, and Ephesians 5:31.

Tip No. 4: Agree to Set Aside Your Problems

Agreeing to set aside your problems will be your breakthrough. Do not allow yourselves to talk about problems anymore. The moment you had a breakthrough, you buried all your differences.

Tip No. 5: Be the Change You Want to See

Mahatma Gandhi’s timeless axiom holds to this day: “Be the transformation you want to observe in the world.” This philosophy applies perfectly to your marriage, which was on the brink of ending. Set aside your issues, it might be beneficial to create an unspoken list of the do’s and don’ts. Treat your partner with the same respect and consideration that you would like to be treated with.

Tip No. 6: Start Connecting

The ultimate aim of this process is for couples to reconnect. Devote your whole energy to linking back to the damaged bonds of your relationship. Both of you must make use of certain relationship skills to reach intimacy. This way, you can re-ignite the flame of love and ensure it doesn’t go out. You should begin to form new relationship habits that will bring about positive vibes in your marriage. Moreover, dedicate your time and effort to particular activities that will strengthen your relationship. The question is, how can I do it? What will help us stay connected? You can’t get connected if you don’t feel love. It is the power of love that can make you relate. How do we make the feeling of connection? Take some advice from Mort’s 50 Ways to Reconnect.

Tip No. 7: Talk to & Touch Each Other

There is great power in talking to each other and touching in making a sustainable connection between the couple. I have borrowed some of Mort’s 50 ways to talk and touch list that can accompany you in this incredible journey of reconnecting and staying in love and hooked forever.

Conclusion

In conclusion, couples who are going through difficult times in their marriage should not give up hope and must take the right steps to save their marriage. By following the tips mentioned above, couples can work together to improve their relationship and save their marriage. This includes making a sober self-evaluation, humbling yourself to God, letting your partner know that you are committed to saving your marriage, agreeing to set aside your problems, being the change you want to see, and starting connecting and talking and touching each other. With patience, understanding, and effort, couples can overcome any obstacle and build a strong and healthy marriage.

CPA. Dr. Seraphia Mgembe