Psychology

SOME IMPORTANT TIPS FOR FIXING YOUR MARRIAGE

Many people try their best to get into married lives and enjoy what they consider others enjoying. If you tell a young lady preparing for marriage how insecure marriage life is, I can bet she will hate you forever, thinking you do not wish the best for her. If you opt to counsel a young lady fighting to get out of the marriage institution that getting out of it is not the best option for her, she will again hate you throughout her lifetime. Here are some step-by-step tips to help those in married lives and those preparing to venture into it.

TIP NO. 1: MAKE A SOBER SELF EVALUATION FIRST

It is common for spouses to throw stones at their partners in all cases where the relationship was not working well. You just ask yourself how many times you attached your marriage problem to your faults? How many times did you apologize to your partner that you made a thorough evaluation and discovered that you are a reason for the trouble that your relationship is going through? How many times did say to yourself that you are going to change your behavior for the sake of protecting and or saving your marriage? You have the answers to these critical questions.

TIP NO. 2: HUMBLE YOURSELF TO GOD

 My independent advice is to make a sober evaluation of yourself before you accuse your partner. You can get the concept of creating a self-evaluation in the word of God from Luke 6:4 – 42, which says that “first remove the beam out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to cast out the mote out of your brother’s eye.”

Implementing tip number one above is not as simple as cutting an apple; it needs God’s Grace to do it with a sober mind. Remember the word of God in the Philippines 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

TIP NO. 3: LET YOUR PARTNER KNOW THAT YOU ARE COMMITTED TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

It would help if you found an appropriate time and place to let your partner know that you are committed to saving your marriage. Let your partner know how much love and forgiveness mean to you. You need to agree with each other on the miraculous powers of prayer in the process to revolutionize your life. Remind each other that marriage comes from God. In Genesis 1: 26-27 and 2:18-24, and Ephesians 5:31, God commands man and woman to leave father and mother and become husband and wife through uniting in a one-flesh.

TIP NO. 4: AGREE TO SET ASIDE YOUR PROBLEMS

Agreeing to set aside your problems will be your breakthrough. Do not allow yourselves to talk about problems anymore. The moment you had a breakthrough, you have buried all your differences.

TIP NO. 5: BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE

One of the famous inspirational old says by Mahatma Gandhi is “Be the Change you want to see in the world.” The statement is quite applicable to your marriage life that was about to break. After you have agreed to set aside your problems, you may make a silent wish list on the Dos and Don’ts for your partner. Do not do to your partner what you would not wish done on you.

TIP NO. 6: START CONNECTING TO EACH OTHER

The ultimate goal of this process is for partners to reconnect. Use all your energy to connect back to the broken lines of your relationship. Each of you is responsible for utilizing some relationship techniques to take you to intimacy. In this way, you will fall in love again and stay in love. You must start establishing new relationship habits that will bring positive energy to your marriage. Much more, spend your time and energy doing specific relationship-building activities, and you will make irrelevant those planning to attack your marriage life. The question is, how do I do it? What is that which will keep us connected? You cannot get connected if you are not in love. It is the power of love that can make you relate. What do we do to create the feeling of getting connected? Borrow and use some ways from Mort’s 50 ways to reconnect.

TIP NO. 7: TALK TO & TOUCH EACH OTHER

There is great power in talking to each other and touching in making a sustainable connection between the couple. I have borrowed some of the Mort’s 50 ways to talk and touch list that can accompany you in this incredible journey of reconnecting and staying in love and hooked forever.

CONCLUSION

It is possible to fix a broaken marriage. Both of you have the responsibility to nurture this truth. Start loving your partner unconditionally.